Don't Take MY Word For It!

By P.C. Lude


As a Christian woman I have spent my life thus far in relentless pursuit of the truth. That's right I said THE truth. I believe there is only one, and it is absolute. That truth is God's Word. Now God has set this entire universe and everything in it all it's orders, and creatures, and seasons into motion. Do you believe this? If you do then you're in for some conviction ladies. And not just the ladies, there's conviction aplenty if we will simply take God at His Word. 

Women want everything these days. And due largely to some very creative whining, we seem to have gotten it haven't we? But as the saying goes 'Be careful what you wish for...' ? What if, ladies, we actually GET all that we've pined for, whined for, and marched for all these years? I'm talking about feminism. I can nearly hear the gasps...

Consider this:

Carol grew up in a mostly traditional home. I say mostly because her parents divorced when she was a young girl, and she ended up like many children in the late 60's, growing up in a 'mixed' home. Step mother, step siblings, somewhat unorthodox but people were learning to adjust. It was the cusp of the Feminist Movement and this was rapidly becoming the norm. Women were no longer content to stay home with the children and raise them. And husbands were realizing that with the women off working, they could enjoy some fringe benefits as well. Sadly the victims here, the casualties of the Feminist war....have been, and will always be the children, very often the marriages, and eventually societies and entire civilizations.

Carol decided young that she would have a career. She would not be economically depressed nor maritally repressed and so after high-school graduation, Carol entered college. Ah, higher education. Enlightenment. Carol began building her career but it wasn't long before she wanted to have a family. We women, whether we want to admit it or not are hard-wired this way. In fact, the Word says that women are saved guessed it! Childbirth! 


 “However, women will be saved by having children, if they continue to have faith, love, and holiness, along with good judgment”.  1 Timothy 2:15


God made man first. He is the head. Then He created woman from the man. She came out of the man and came second. Following the order of things, God is and has always been therefore, He is first. God created man, man is second. God fashioned woman from man, woman is third. Man and woman procreate and children come fourth. Now, in the Biblical text we read that God is the head of man and man the head of woman. To woman is delegated from God through man to her over the household, the right and responsibility of the use of his authority to make decisions in running the household and training the children. This, I believe, is God's design.


"But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in transgression in the home” 1 Timothy 2:11


And if we take part of God's Word, then we must take all of it or we can have none of it. That is how it works. There is no Holy scripture that has become obsolete or irrelevant through the ages. It is living. And so it will always be current.


The story of Carol is typical these days, however. Women want it all. The career, the house, the car, the loving husband, the great kids, the right social ladder, and the love and loyalty of a man who won't complain that SHE really has all the power. Not to mention God's blessings! HUH??? Ladies please! How long do we think we can run this war? You see, when you read God's Word for its face value and do not try to 'interpret' it, you see quickly enough that God made no promise of, nor allowance for, obscene wealth as our modern society would have it. Things, money, affluence, they are gods and idols in their own rite.


Read the Word...its right there in print "For the love of money is the root of all evil." .  How much evil? All! And I would even take it a step further and take a crack at rebellion ladies...the rebellion of feminism. When we have the money and we seek the power we are on treacherous ground indeed. We walk out from under the protection of our husband and our marriage, even our Heavenly Father when we rebel and seek to have power and say-so over our husbands. All too often the prisoner of this war is the marriage itself. Our husbands are hard-wired to be the family leaders. It is unbecoming, inappropriate, ungodly and even unnatural for a man to be under the authority of his wife. And it is offensive to God. It flies in the face of His design. However in our society this is appearing to be the case more and more often. 


But if the truth really be told, women do not want the power nor the responsibility that comes with it, that our husbands have been given by God. We are not designed to be 'lonely at the top'. What we want really, deep down, is to be loved, treasured, appreciated, valued...hey, even Gloria Steinham eventually married! We need to stop being in opposition to our husbands and the authority that they are given, and begin being feminine once again. Imagine that! A woman who behaves as a lady, drawing out the man in her husband. What a concept! But it is nothing new, this was written thousands of years ago. And back then, daughters were taught it by their mothers who learned it from their mothers who learned it from their mothers, etc., etc.


And you know something? That calling has never changed. In the New Testament Paul spoke about it. Addressing older married women "You older women should be teaching the younger women how to love their husbands.". When you speak softly to your husband you persuade him. This should never be done for selfish gain but all too often it has been. And men cannot trust women who have abused their influences over them. Nor can women trust men who have abused their God-given power and authority over their wives and children. Suffice to say that neither men nor women, husbands nor wives can carry out the call on our lives by our Creator in our own intellect or strength. What we CAN do is rely on the humility of Christ and the wisdom of the Spirit of the most high God and prayerfully love each other as HE does. We need to stop competing and comparing and envying...this is SO nothing new.


In fact the writer of Ecclesiastes said ' There is nothing new under the sun.' ... and there isn't. We won't change God-ordained human life by our stubbornness, our intellect, not war. We must take God at His Word, accept it in faith, TRUST Him to carry us, trust Him to receive us as His children, to cover us with grace when we fail because we will fail sometimes. To prayerfully carry out the tasks that come with being husbands, wives, people. Speak the truth to one another in love. And when we seek first HIS kingdom and HIS righteousness, then all these things will be added...but don't take my word for it....take His! 

(c) 2005


I desire therefore that the men in every place pray, lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting. In the same way, that women also adorn themselves in decent clothing, with modesty and propriety; not just with braided hair, gold, pearls, or expensive clothing; but (which becomes women professing godliness) with good works. Let a woman learn in quietness with all subjection. 1 Timothy 2:8-11